“There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.” ~ Nelson Mandela
Firstly, welcome to Lyd on Life
What’s Valentines Day to you?
Growing up, my mum has always been my valentines. Every year (or so) I would buy her something. Why? Because, aside from not having anyone else (i.e. a boyfriend) to buy it for I truly believed that Valentine’s day was about doing something out of the ordinary for someone you love.
We are all human and unfortunately we can’t be trusted to do things on our own sometimes. We need some assistance so in comes Mr Valentine to remind us to take a step back from our busy lives and show some love.
As I’ve grown up and gotten into a relationship, the meaning of Valentine’s Day hasn’t changed but the person it’s directed towards has slightly. The commercialisation of Valentine’s Day plays a part but it’s also because I’m enjoying the experience. It’s nice to know you are amongst the people spending Valentine’s Day with someone other than your mum, sister or YouTube videos.
Last year K brought me a lovely card, a teddy and took me out to dinner. Cute, right? I was so anxious I felt a little overwhelmed. I didn’t realise just how stressful preparing for Valentine’s day could be. I’d never done it before so shout out to the girls that make it look easy. Hair, nails, make-up, outfit etc is no joke!
This year was different. This years I decided to relax and enjoy the process of getting ready. I felt more comfortable and confident in my skin and in our relationship than I did last year. With my new-found freedom from make-up, I didn’t have the pressures of last year to cake-up my face just to look a certain way. Make-up became an addition to my beauty rather then the making of my beauty.
Looking back 12 months later, it made me realise just how much I didn’t know about myself and how much I’ve grown since then. I no longer felt the unnecessary pressures of looking good enough on that day because I knew I was enough. My smile, my presence and my confidence was enough. Valentines day or any other day spent with a loved one shouldn’t be about how you look (thought it helps) but about how you make the person you are with feel.
I guess it gets easier as you get to know each other and become comfortable with one another. I’ve learned that there’s no need to pretend to be something you’re not thinking it will please the other person. If you must pretend, then maybe you’re not right for each other.
It was an amazing night and I’m excited for what the rest of the year holds for K and I.
A lot can happen in 12 months. Wish us luck!
How has Valentine’s day changed for you over the years? What are some of the things you do for Valentine’s Day?
Let me know in the comments below, email me or tweet me @lydiaonlife.
P.s: I got my mum flowers and wine this year for Valentines. She will always be my Valentine!