“The moment you put a deadline on your dream, it becomes a goal.”
Dear future self,
At this time of the year, most people have already set their New Year’s resolutions and goals and are well on their way to working on them, but not you. Why? Because, if you learned anything in 2017 it was to not set yourself up to do more than you can handle.
Studies have shown that approximately 80% of resolutions fail by the second week of February and I myself am witness to that. It’s easy to set goals in the hype of the new year only to quickly realise you’re not ready to achieve them or they aren’t what you really wanted to achieve.
I don’t want a repeat of 2017 mistakes so this year I want us to try a new approach when it comes to goal setting. It’s probably not new to the rest of the world but it certainly is to me. We’re in the second month of the year and already so many things have happened which you wouldn’t have known in January. So instead of setting goals for the entire year, I want us to set goals for each month.
Our ultimate goal is to have a better end to the year than the start, right? But how can we do that if we don’t know what lies ahead of us over the next 10 months?
“A man’s days are numbered. You know the number of his months” ~ Job 14:5-7
If you only had 30 days to live, what would you achieve?
It’s so easy for us to set goals for the entire year but who told you, you had the entire year?
I don’t mean to sound all doom and gloom so early on in the year but no one knows how long they have on this earth. There is no telling whether we will be here tomorrow. All we have is right now so why not use it? Let’s work with what we have now to get what we hope to have at the end of the year – a better end to 2018 than the start.
It sounds simple but you and I both know that’s not how our goal setting usually works. We set a list of things we want to achieve by the end of the year but half way through, we drop some or pick up new ones to accommodate the unpredictability that is life.
Work with what you have instead of what you think or hope you might have. What is your goal for this month? What can you achieve this month that you didn’t achieve last month? What do you need to do this month to help you achieve the goals for next month?
So what if the month has already started, it’s never too late. The important thing is to start now. Start where you are with what you have and make small but significant progress as you go through the year. Don’t even think about next month, just focus on the next few weeks of this month. What will you achieve? If you can achieve those goals, then you can reach next month’s goals and the next month’s goals and so on. Before you know it, your 2018 is already looking better than it started.
So as you think about the goals you want to achieve by the end of this month I want you to ask yourself these 3 questions:
- What goals didn’t you achieve last month?
- Do you still want to achieve those goals?
- Can you achieve them by the end of this month?
The answers to these questions will lead you to your how.
Dear feature self, it’s easy for me to set the goals but it’s you who has to make the attempt to fulfil them. As you work through each month I want you to know I’m proud of you. You are dealing with the consequences of my decisions and expectations of you and I know you are doing an amazing job. I trust that you are handling everything to the best of your ability and I couldn’t ask for anything more.
So dear future self, keep going and keep working on you. Make small steps each month to reach your goals and don’t be afraid to change the plan if you have to. It’s called adapting and I’m counting on you to do that.
Make each month of 2018 your b*tch!
Till next time.